THE SUGGESTION BOX IS CLOSED

Good news / bad news. My esophageal stent was removed last week and thankfully all of the horrific pain has resolved. That is the very good news.

The bad news is swallowing is an issue and it’s going to limit greatly the time I have left.

The good news is I do have some control over how and when and I’m looking into those next steps.

The bad news is that a lot of loving friends, family and community have a lot of their own anxiety and feelings and needs and think this is the time to share those with me. It is not.

And a lot of well-intended messages, texts and calls are hitting my inbox with way too many questions, for which there are no answers.

Since this is my Prelude to Death, I get to call the shots. And one of them is that I don’t wish to have conversations where I have to hear anybody else’s anxiety, speeches or feelings of shock. You’ll have to manage your own emotions.

We’ve had years for these conversations. Now is not the time to ramp up on how you are feeling.  Surely not the time to text constant messages. It’s too much for me.

Email is best.

This is a time that is strictly about me. My one and only death. And all the support you’ve offered and all of the times you’ve showed up—in so many ways, is what sustained me and helped get me to here. Gratitude for so much love, support and good times.

This is where I’m at right now and that may or may not change.

I’ve never died before so taking things day by day and often minute by minute.
Same for my immediate family. We are still in this together.
I love and appreciate all of you❤️